Ideas are like energy. They don’t come from nowhere; they are passed on. The information contained in an idea can never be created or destroyed, only transferred, or not.

The value of ideas is conditional. Imagine a lightbulb burning in an empty room. The light it emits is a function of the transfer of energy in the form of electricity through a filament. However, it only becomes valuable as a lightbulb when there is someone in the room who needs to see something. Having an idea is like turning a light on: for the first time, we experience the value of an idea for ourselves, regardless of how many people have had it before.

This blog is a collection of good ideas, based on one person’s experience of relational work over many years. None of these ideas is new, but at some point, I became aware of their value for the first time, through observation, reflection or association, often as a direct result of someone else’s input. In reading them, you might remember important experiences you have had, or understand something new through your experience of thinking about them.

These ideas are a reflection, not an instruction. They are valuable, but not in themselves. Their value lies in what they shed light on for you; only you will understand exactly what this means.

These ideas will not help you. They are an invitation for you to help yourself. They are not an answer but a question: what do you know about your experience of yourself in the world?